Newly & Long-Time Married

Just Between Us – Finally: Special Tools and Strategies for Military Couples

cover_familiusMarriage, under the best of circumstances, can be challenging.

That couples actually co-create loving, intimate and lasting marriages is nothing short of a testament to them as individuals and the attention and intention they bring to their love, to their marriage and to each other.

Add to that the stress and pressures of being a couple in the military, you have all the makings for challenges on steroids.

Then, add everything related to one or both partners being deployed, and you have a situation that requires special care and support.

My guest today is Dr. Stanley Halla couple and family therapist specializing in counseling military families, and the author of Deployed: The Survival Guide for Families at War. 

Please join me for this important conversation that has something for all couples!

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Just Between Us – Everything You Need To Know About Being a High Functioning and Happy Step-Couple, Step-Family and Step-Parent


The Step-parent dynamic is one of the most, if not THE most, challenging relationship dynamics. There are many good reasons for this, and some not good reasons.

  • Someone else is loving and taking care of OUR kids.
  • Our kids are loving and enjoying being with another parent-type person, and for many that is simply intolerable.
  • Sometimes people are so mad at each other and holding so much resentment that it leaks out all over everyone who comes into contact with them.

And the list goes on and on.

We can all talk about the problems and challenges from our own experience, and from the experiences of friends, family members, the parents of our kids’ friends.

But what we don’t do is talk about how to resolve the Step-stuff that is normal and natural. And that is the subject of our podcast today.

My guest for this episode is Jenna Korf ,co-author of the book, “Skirts At War: Beyond Divorced Mom/Stepmom Conflict,” a Certified Stepfamily coach, blogger, stepmom and a stepchild! Jenna is also the developer of the Stepfamily Certification Course.

Join us for an interesting and very informative 30-minutes!

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Just Between Us – Conflict: Friend, Foe, or a Rich Opportunity for Personal Growth and Healing


book-pageDo you the same argument with your partner over and over again?

Are you and your partner getting along well one minute and the next minute one of you has done or said something that triggers the other and literally rips both of you out of the sweet, loving moment you were sharing and into an uber bad place for both of you?

This is much more common than you may think.

We all fall into patterns of behavior with each other and we all have reactive patterns, meaning that we react to what is being said or done or at least what we t-h-i-n-k is being said or done, and we react vs stop, take a moment and then respond proactively.

My guest for this episode is Tara Fields, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the author of The Love Fix.

Don’t miss this conversation and the 3-minute “Fixes” Tara shares.

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Just Between Us – Everything You Wish You Knew About Love, Sex and Intimacy But Never Learned

518cWJUdy1L._SX331_BO1,204,203,200_I have several important questions I want you to think about before you listen to this podcast:

  1. Do you know the difference between affection, passion, sensuality, intimacy and being sexual?

Does your partner?

  1. On a scale of 1 to 3, when you think about the level of closeness and connection you have with your partner, where do you land?
  2. How much clarity do you have about what kinds of things may be keeping you from being as close and connected with your partner as you want to be?

My guest for this episode are Mali Apple and Joe Dunn, the authors of The Soulmate Lover: A Guide to Passionate and Lasting Love, Sex, and Intimacy.

Please join me for this illuminating conversation with the experts who are living their passion!

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Just Between Us – Falling in Love is Easy: Top Tips For Staying In Love Forever – 2 Minutes at a Time

41UIlIBSmWLFalling in love is easy. Staying in love year after year after year is quite a different story.

Over time, there are many assaults on your hopes and dreams of “…happily ever after.”

Through the normal course of daily life together you get…

  •          Disappointed
  •          Disillusioned
  •          Frustrated
  •          Hurt
  •          Mad

… you know what I am talking about.

Today’s episode is all about how to build a marriage that can last the test of time. It’s not rocket science. It’s about taking the time and making the effort with many small, acts of loving kindness every day — something you’ve heard over and over, I’m guessing.

Well, today I want to talk about it again, because like all of us, you probably get busy or preoccupied with LIFE… and this is so important to me, that I want to remind you about what you already know but might not be remembering every day.

My guest for this episode is Heidi Poelman, the author of the new book, The Two-Minute Marriage Project.

Join us for this important and interesting conversation.

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Just Between Us – A Frank, Eveything-You-Should-Know Conversation About Cheating

Adele-050-1_pp-2-201x300Have you ever cheated – had an emotional, physical or sexual relationship with a person not the person you are married to?

Has your committed partner or spouse ever had an emotional, physical or sexual relationship with someone other than you?

I invited Adele McCormack to join me for this episode to talk about who is cheating, why are they cheating, what happens to their marriages post-cheating, do cheaters ever stop cheating, and a whole lot more!

Join me and my guest, Adele McCormack for a frank and super informative conversation about cheating and cheaters. Share your thoughts and send your comments to Dr. Jackie.

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Just Between Us – Are You Ready to Make Your Marriage Your Greatest Adventure?

jbu06012015Is your marriage what you want it to be?

When we talk about falling in love, getting married and building a marriage that will be happy and lasting we know for sure that Love is NOT enough.

We’re in a very exciting time in history. The paradigm for marriage that has been in place for over 65 years is shifting and changing. And there is an exciting conversation going on about what people want and how they co-create the life and the love-life that will be aligned for them; that will affirm and esteem their best and most brilliant passionate selves in the presence of each other.

My guest today is on the leading edge of this conversation. He is truly a visionary when it comes to marriage and relationships.

David Steele, the author of the new book,
Radical Marriage, Your Relationship as Your Greatest Adventure, a licensed Marriage Family therapist, a pioneer in the field of relationship coaching and the founder of the Relationship Coaching Institute the first and largest international relationship coach training organization.

Join us as David and I talk about commitment, communication, intimacy and sex.

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Just Between Us – Great Sex: Don’t Think For a Minute That Happens Only In Your Body

jbu05042015I hope you enjoy this Best of Dr. Jackie! I look forward to being back with you next time!

There’s an old saying: “If you want to make love to your wife tonight you’d better start in the morning.”
While that old adage comes right straight out of that old, outdated model of marriage, there is still a shade of truth for contemporary couples.

More than ever before in recorded history, contemporary couples are concerned with living their individual and their couple Vision, love of Self as well as Partner, and deepening emotional intimacy; “higher order needs” that require tools and skills necessary to create committed, intimate and lasting relationships in today’s fast paced and information-driven world.

My guests in this episode are Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson, the authors of a new book, Great Sex Made Simple: Tantric Tips to Deepen Intimacy & Heighten Pleasure, their third book in an amazing series. They are a devoted married couple and have been teaching Tantra together since 1999.

There are more misunderstanding about Tantra and Tantric sex than you can shake a stick at, as another old saying goes.

I encourage you to give a listen because Mark and Patricia will offer practical tools you absolutely will be able to put to work in your marriage that will help you and your partner deepen your intimacy in and OUT of the bedroom. Only a very small percentage of traditional Tantric practices are physically sexual in nature. So do yourself and your partner a favor, take 30-minutes and listen to this inspiring and enriching episode on Just Between Us!

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Just Between Us – Send Your Emotional Baggage Packing And Put the Loving Feelings Back in Love Relationships

jbu11032015When you are married or are in a long-term, committed relationship, one of the things that happens is that the longer you are married and the closer you get; the more you love each other; the more attached you get to each other; and the scarier it gets – because the risks are greater and you become more hurtable.  marriage relationship is unique, but there are common experiences that we bring to our partner, to our marriage and to our emotional life – which is the bedrock of marriage. Emotions…

In today’s episode, we’re going to explore how emotional baggage effects our relationships.

My guest today is Sky Blossoms, a Relationship Expert and Intuitive Success Coach and the #1 Bestselling Author of
Best Thing Ever: Escape Disappointments and Drama and Let True Love Into Your Life.

You are going to want to listen to this entire show and bookmark it so you can listen over and over.

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Just Between Us – Best Kept Secrets of a Fulfilling Marriage Revealed

jbu09082014There are many myths about sex and romance in long-term relationships. There are also some universal truths.

For many men and women the beginning of a relationship is exciting! It’s a time of high sexual attraction and abounding sexual energy.

You are just getting to know each other. He doesn’t know anything about your dark side. She is oblivious to your annoying behaviors, idiosyncrasies or eccentricities. It’s a time when you love everything about each other. Attitudes and behaviors are easily and readily tolerated and accommodated.

Deepening romance, intimacy and good sex over with your partner over the long-term requires intention, commitment and planning; and it is the responsibility of each partner.

In today’s episode, we’re going to explore some of what it takes to have a fulfilling marriage for years and years and years!

My guest today is Dr. Jeff Kane, a couples and family therapist, the Founder and CEO of Family Therapy Center in South Florida, the creator of the online community Relationships Unscripted, the author of the book and eBook – “12 Best Kept Secrets to a Fulfilling Relationship
and the creator of the Relationship Secrets Program.

This is 30-minutes you are not going to want to miss. Join me for this fast-paced conversation

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